I'm So Nice.
"Oh, you're so nice!" is something I get a lot. It frustrates me because most of the time it's not that I'm nice, it's just that it's not worth it to speak up and potentially cause a scene (which I've done quite a bit). Asia Suler wrote a great piece that articulated many of my feelings about niceness. There are times when there's a moment for education, and there are times when it's worth quietly disengaging. A lot of folks misinterpret quietly disengaging as being nice, but maybe quietly disengaging is what we're taught to do to be nice.